The winter holiday season can be overwhelming for parents who are juggling routine responsibilities with extra to-dos and social obligations. But setting boundaries clearly and consistently—within a practice of tuning into your own body’s cues on what feels energizing and what feels draining—can help you combat overwhelm and unlock more joy.

Here are four boundaries that just make sense for holiday parenting, particularly in your hefty caregiving era with babies, toddlers, or young children:

1. Boundaries on finances: You don’t have to buy all the things for all the people. It’s okay to step back from extensive gift-giving or pricey potlucks. Focus on thoughtful, meaningful gifts rather than feeling pressured to spend beyond your means.

2. Boundaries on social capacity: It’s perfectly fine to say no to extra gatherings. The holidays should be enjoyable, not exhausting. Prioritize events that are meaningful to you and your family, and don’t hesitate to decline invitations when you need a break. You can grow into holiday events and gatherings as your children get older and your social capacity changes.

3. Boundaries on travel: It’s okay to stay home. Traveling during the holidays can be stressful and tiring, especially with young children. If staying home feels right for your family, embrace it by creating your own special traditions.

4. Boundaries on illness risk tolerance: With young children, being firm about illness is okay. Ask visitors to reschedule if they’re feeling unwell or showing symptoms. Keeping your family healthy is more important than adhering to social expectations. Babies, toddlers, and young children can be at high risk for many common respiratory infections that spread during the fall and winter months, such as RSV or whooping cough.

Setting these boundaries can help you navigate the holiday season with less stress and more joy, ensuring you and your family have a meaningful and enjoyable time.