Narration involves neutrally describing the events of a brewing conflict without assigning blame while holding space for your children to problem-solve independently. This technique will be one of your most essential parenting tools for a baby and toddler!
How it works:
Just describe what you see, like a sportscaster: “You’re really interested in that truck. Your sister isn’t done using the truck.”
Pause. It can be tempting to intervene and offer directions immediately, but an intentional pause helps them process the situation and practice problem-solving themselves. Wait to see if the older sibling decides to respect the baby’s turn with the truck or if the baby decides to offer it to the sibling at their readiness.
If they do not solve the problem and the conflict escalates, it’s okay to intervene as a mediator. “You can wait for your turn by watching baby’s play, or choosing something else until they’re finished.”
With time and practice, it’ll become easier to remain calm and neutral as you narrate each child’s perspective. Remember, sibling conflict is expected and normal. Your job is not to pick sides or solve their battles for them but to maintain safety, model empathy, and coach them through the intricacies of conflict resolution.