Parenting can be a challenging but rewarding experience. However, for many mothers, parenting can also be overwhelming and isolating. Many mothers feel like the “default parent,” responsible for most childcare and household tasks.
According to a study by the Pew Research Center, 61% of mothers with children under age 18 say they do most or all of the household chores, compared to just 35% of fathers. The study also found that mothers are more likely than fathers to say they feel overwhelmed by their parenting responsibilities.
Here are some tips for how to set up a healthy parenting relationship with a partner:
Communicate openly and honestly with your spouse about your parenting goals and priorities. This will help you stay on the same page and ensure you are both on track.
Create a shared parenting schedule that works for both of you.This may involve taking turns with childcare, working from home, or hiring a babysitter.
Don't be afraid to ask for help from each other, friends, or family members. Parenting is a team effort, and everyone needs a little help sometimes.
Take care of yourselves.Make sure you are both getting enough sleep, eating healthy foods, and exercising regularly. This will help you be better parents and partners.
Avoid assigning gender roles to parenting tasks.There is no rule for who takes out the garbage and who goes grocery shopping. Decide what is right for you and your family vs. relying on stereotypical household roles.
Be mindful of your own mental load.The mental load is the invisible work that goes into parenting, such as planning meals, scheduling appointments, and keeping track of school activities. Sharing this load with your spouse is essential so you don't feel overwhelmed.
Celebrate your successes.When you and your spouse can share the parenting load and work as a team, take some time to celebrate your accomplishments. This will help you stay motivated and keep working together.