It's normal to feel nervous, unsure, or anxious about bonding with your baby, whether you’re mom or dad. For dads, bonding can feel extra tricky when newborns are so biologically connected to mom for establishing breastfeeding. Rest assured, your contributions as a dad will lay the foundation of a close relationship.
These easy connection moments count as bonding:
Skin-to-skin contact.This is not just something to do in the hospital; you can continue to hold your baby skin-to-skin at home! It is a major way to bond.
Changing diapers.Bonding also happens during caregiving tasks. Talk to your baby during their diaper changes and move slowly so they can feel included in what is happening, rather than rushing through the steps and trying to distract them.
Night wakings.Responding to your baby when they need reassurance lets them know they can rely on you.
Join in floor play.Get on your baby’s level during their floor play or tummy time, and try to see the world from their perspective.
Reading and singing.It doesn’t matter if you are a terrible singer. Your baby will love listening to your voice, whether from a story or lullaby.
Babywearing.Find a carrier you like, and keep your baby close while navigating errands or outings.
Overall, be patient and present. Bonding isn’t instant. You’re just getting to know each other.