Colic is a term used to describe inconsolable crying and fussiness, typically peaking around six weeks old. Although not a diagnosis, it can be distressing as it can feel like your baby isn't responding to typical soothing strategies.
There is no known cause, and it's not your fault.
The exact cause of colic remains uncertain, but some factors that may contribute to it include gastrointestinal discomfort, immature digestive systems, overstimulation, and emotional stress.
Before assuming your fussy baby has colic, it's essential to consult with your pediatrician so they can rule out other causes that may be treatable first, such as severe infant reflux, which can be supported with a feeding evaluation and potentially medication.
Colic is not a diagnosis, but is often discussed when other possible medical challenges have been ruled out.
If it is colic, rest assured that it resolves on its own
Colic is temporary and usually resolves on its own by the time babies reach 3-6 months of age. Some babies are more sensitive to stimuli. This sensitivity may surface as having a "higher needs" temperament. Heightened sensitivity to surroundings can be overwhelming, hence the crying.
How to cope
Typical soothing techniques like swaddling, warm baths, white noise, gentle rocking, or bouncing can all help your baby. Don't forget to try fresh air, too, which can be easy to overlook when managing a screaming newborn in your home. Sometimes, a change of scenery and a dose of sunshine can reset your baby's mood.
Babywearing can also help "higher needs" babies, as it provides that close contact and co-regulation that they need while allowing you to regain a sense of freedom by having your hands free.
Essential tips for you
Take turns with your partner or a trusted caregiver to ensure you both have time for self-care and rest. It's normal to feel overwhelmed by inconsolable crying. Still, it will be essential to honor your limits and put the baby down in a safe space so that you can regroup mentally and emotionally.
Shaken baby syndrome is a severe condition that affects a dysregulated adult in a moment of excessive overwhelm. This is why stepping away when you feel frustrated or overwhelmed is essential.
This will pass
Hang in there, and don't hesitate to contact trusted friends, family, or neighbors.