Separation and stranger anxiety mark two common developmental milestones in a baby's life. At 4 months, you may have noticed that your baby shows a clear preference for you, but this will likely evolve into a stronger calling to stay close to you as these two types of anxiety take hold.
The scoop on stranger anxiety and separation anxiety
Stranger anxiety is when your baby becomes wary around unfamiliar faces. They're not sure of other people.
Separation anxiety is when your baby becomes unsettled and upset because you leave, even if it's just noticing you momentarily left a play space. They need you!
Both stranger and separation anxiety can emerge as early as 4-5 months, but typically, families notice it more by 8-9 months old.
It can be hard to see your baby struggle with others you might deem trustworthy, but pediatricians look for this as a sign of healthy development. In other words, developing separation and stranger anxiety indicates positive, secure attachments with primary caregivers. It's nothing to worry about.
Here are some tips for dealing with it:
Let them observe your baby from your arms or lap when introducing them to new people. Familiar toys or blankets can provide a sense of security.
Be close by when your baby encounters strangers. Your presence provides a reassuring anchor for them.
If your baby seems uncomfortable or anxious, stepping back is okay. They will likely warm up with time. New bonds can't be rushed or forced.
Continue to offer a loving and supportive environment, and your baby will gradually become more comfortable with new faces while maintaining a strong bond with you.