Understanding the Situation

Pregnancy and childbirth are monumental events that bring about significant physical and emotional changes. New mothers commonly experience a range of emotions as they physically, mentally, and emotionally adjust to this new “normal.” As a partner, you play a crucial role in offering support during this time. Here's how you can help:

Ensure that you're communicating effectively. Listen without judgment and encourage your partner to express her feelings freely. It's important to remember that it's okay to have only some of the answers. Sometimes, listening is enough. Validate her feelings, even if you don’t understand them. Just saying things like “That must be really hard” can feel huge to a new mom.

Taking over some baby care duties can provide a much-needed break. Whether changing diapers, helping with feedings, or rocking the baby to sleep, these actions can go a long way in providing support. We know you’re tired too- of course you are. Think about how you can take some of these tasks off your partner’s mental load. She can mentally exhale when she doesn’t have to worry about things like heating up a bottle or buying new diapers.

Help ensure your partner eats well, stays hydrated, and gets enough sleep. These are basic needs, but they're often overlooked during the early days of parenthood. Think about easy-to-make, healthy options like smoothies, oatmeal, or other simple recipes. Even if she doesn’t ask for it, think about how you can offer.

Encourage your partner to take some time for herself. This could be a warm bath, reading a book, or taking a short walk. It's important to take some time to relax and recharge. Sometimes, just 10 minutes of fresh air is enough to provide a change of scenery and a little energy boost.

If your partner's mood or anxiety seems severe, or if she has mentioned harming herself or the baby, seek professional help immediately. This could be a healthcare provider, a local crisis center, or a trusted counselor.

Remember, the best thing you can do as a partner is be there, listen, and provide support in any way you can. We know this is a massive change for you, too, and it is essential for you both to support each other. As a non-birthing parent, think about how you can share some physical and mental responsibilities. It really can go further than you think.